What actually makes a person ‘cool’

Have you ever taken a single glance at a random person and just thought, yeah that’s a cool dude. But what is it about them that brings you to this conclusion, is it the way they are dressed, their posture maybe, how they look? It’s quite difficult really to ascertain that trait that we may see in someone that makes us assume that they would be a cool person but first off, what does it even mean to be cool? Are you cool? Well then, let’s get into it.

Okay so when I went on Google the first definition for cool I saw was to be at a fairly low temperature. Well that doesn’t apply unless we’re talking about vampires which I admit are quite pretty cool too. But then I came across the real deal, the aesthetic kind, and it is defined as an aesthetic of attitude, behaviour, comportment, appearance and style which is generally admired. This definitely ticks all the boxes and a combination of these traits will definitely imply that you’re a cool person.

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 I know that they always say to never judge a book by it’s cover, but we always do and most of the time people really are what they seem. So, can you actually conclude just by looking at someone if they’re cool? Yes and No. If they got the whole appearance and style and attitude part of it on lock, then you can definitely tell. In some cases though, they may not really dress all that great but they have a personality that’s amazing and their ideas and thought patterns will go on to show you that they are indeed cool. Allow me to break down each of these traits to better understand what it takes to be considered cool.

Appearance and Style

This is probably by far the most important metric used to measure how cool a person is, so how really do cool people dress like? Cool people have a positive relationship with their body and have a good sense of the kind of clothing that goes well with their morphology to make sure that their outfits look great on them. They are risk takers and can put on clothing combos that you’d never dare to try and what separates them from the average person is how confident they are in them. They don’t care for fashion trends and won’t necessarily wear the most expensive clothes, but they’ll make whatever they are wearing look trendy. They love to accessorize and whether it’s streetwear, formal wear or just minimalist, they make that shit look good.

Attitude and Comportment

They key word here is confidence. Every person that I’ve ever considered to be cool was really assured of themselves and confident. Cool people are easy going, nonchalant folks who are just oozing sauce and good vibes. They face problems like the rest of us and also get emotional like us, but they almost never let their emotions get the best of them and there is a reason why remaining calm and collected during a heated conversation or stressful scenario is called ‘keeping your cool’. They are articulate but still laid back, and will stand their ground without necessarily resorting to shouting or violence. Think of Hughey from The Boys, yeah that’s exactly what cool people aren’t.

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Behaviour and Mentality

There are some people that you feel like you can talk to them about anything and they won’t judge you in any way. They relate to your experiences and don’t make you feel shitty about any of it. They are just non-judgmental and understanding. This is how cool people think and behave. They are generous and magnanimous people who have no problem sharing resources and sound advice.

Naturally you might ask yourself, well then, am I actually cool? While I can’t give you a definite answer to that, what I can tell you is that if you aspire to be authentic and comfortable in your own skin and form positive relationships with the people around you, then my guy you are already cool in my eyes.  Here’s to becoming the versions of ourselves we always aspire to be, there’s no better time than the present. Peace and love!

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